Self Esteem is the essential building block of a successful life according to decades of psychological and educational theory. In many ways has become programed into the school system with the mindset that our children lacked so much of it the system has over compensated with a no failure strategy for students. This has led to an inflated self image or ego that refuses to accept a class room grading as they consider themselves a much higher level. So it isn’t just “A” students who have this attitude but “C AND D” students as well and this can carry into all area’s of their life causing a person to become locked into a line of thinking that whatever they do or say should be regarded as important.
So you have poorly performing students who don’t believe they are along with impaired drivers, school bullies and others who commit crimes and lash out at people and yet have a high self eteem and feel others should treat them accordingly. So we’ve gone from building self esteem to creating a monster. So where does this begin, at the home, at the school, at the church or in our community in general. There are some major obstacles when we have too much of a good thing and the word it Entitlement. We feel everyone around owes us something like respect which is earned by a long standing position or service but not given freely to the unknown. There is fine line of having a robust self-image and being able to absorb criticism while using this as a learning circumstance. Realizing we can’t all walk around with wonderful sense of self while our heads are bowed in humble acceptance because this world would be a very boring place. What also comes into all this is the amazing variety of personalities we humans are endeared with and show off every moment.
So we have a cache 22 with our level of self worth because for those that have more than enough can bring a lofty attitude which makes others around them contemptuous as well and for the meek and mild they never let people know their true worth due to the lack of contribution in conversation or decision making. So where is the medium for all this lack of potential and abundance of self image, perhaps it lies in the area of Respect.

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