The low self esteem issues begin who knows when in the average persons life. Perhaps a larger percentage from parents who may have been well meaning but very strict in their perception on how children should behave. Being the youngest of 6 children with 3 sisters and 2 brothers I perhaps was luckier in the amount of attention received and also able to observe my older siblings behavior to see what worked for them in rewards or punishment. Well lets face it back then there was no rewards but just punishment as we had no money other than basic needs such as food and clothing. Self worth was not even a concept in thinking in our house as discipline was of primary importance and really was not a bad thing either but as I grew older and understood my own weakness’s it has become important to give our children structure in the home with a mindset of helping them have a sound sense of self esteem and respect. Growing up my father was quite strict in many ways and yes I felt that it was not until my early 30′s that I finally built a solid foundation of self worth etc. but one thing was we were never demoralized with abusive language by being swore at and told terrible things.So does this mean all families who yell at their children have kids with lower than average image of themselves and those who treat their kids with love and kindness have kids who glow with bright and loving se;f images, well not really. The percentage is probably higher in the loud yelling families of less than great images but I’ve seen people from very kind parents that don’t have high self-admiration. Maybe many people are in this category and are not even aware of it so they just mosey through life  trying not to be noticed or wanting to be and not sure how.
Now if you really suffer from negative thinking so whatever good happens you feel it’s undeserved then we have a ways to go in order to find some acceptance for our life. Low self esteem issues can be many things as shyness, inferiority complex, being bullied, low grades in school, lack of decision making, no planning for our life, no positive expectations. The last one is the kicker because if we have no positive expectations then we must have lots of negative ones instead. Other area’s of this are uneasiness, uncomfortableness, self-consciousness so we constantly feel like everything we do or say is being judged by others. Sad reality of this is most people don’t have to judge us because they are so wrapped up in their own thoughts just like us.

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