Waking up in the morning and you start picking yourself apart and finding faults.
Let’s face it teenage boys can get up and not brush their teeth, not comb their hair and have scuff (whiskers) on their face, go out and nobody says anything. It’s almost accepted as the norm and yet the girls at a very young age are conditioned whether it be from mom or the media that they have to start wearing makeup because if you don’t you’re not complete.
Today we are sold this false image of perfection from every corner store magazine rack of ritzy clothes and perfect bodies (photo shopped) and great skin and hair. Where everyone is always smiling and having the best time ever, or so they would make you believe. The falseness of all this is you would think that those people in the ads or on the covers don’t have any hang-ups and like is just a breeze. In this time of massive communication we are totally aware of what it’s like to be beautiful as nearly every household has internet or cell phones with browser capabilities so we can see these images and commercials but the downside is a woman is always sold – yes you look awesome but it’s not good enough yet. So here’s another magic pill or another makeup kit and maybe this will do the trick.
The sad part is we have thousands of women who get up and put makeup on every day of the week and I mean at least an hour a day devoted to adding eye liner and other stuff so the world won’t see them for their real self. How’s that for conditioning, have they been sold a bill of goods, and do you know why? Because it makes millions of dollars for the companies who make all this stuff.
It’s important to be clean and tidy if I make take a phrase from the 50ties but we don’t have to be perfect and you know what; those who are going to judge you, are going to do that very thing no matter what you do, so just be you.
What are you focused on when you don’t feel good?
We focus on whats not right in our life.
The vibration of a question and the vibration of the answer are two very different vibrations.
If you keep asking what’s wrong why don’t I feel right and if we keep asking the answer for this doesn’t arrive.
Sometimes just let it go and find things you like.
We feel something must be wrong with me and it’s the biggest flawed premise in the world. When finding things we like it takes the thoughts away from us to the beauty around.
Richard St. John was on his way to the TED conference when a girl on the plane asked him, “What really leads to success?” Even though he had achieved some success, he couldn’t explain how he did it. So he spent the next ten years researching success and asking over 500 extraordinarily successful people in many fields what helped them succeed. After analyzing, sorting, and correlating millions of words of research, and building one of the most organized databases on the subject of success, he discovered The 8 Traits Successful People Have in Common and wrote the bestseller 8 To Be Great.
In his books and talks, he shares a wealth of wisdom from the world’s most successful people — knowledge that can help others succeed in their own way, whether it’s escaping poverty, building a business, raising a family, or changing the world.
“It’s so great. It’s such a boost of confidence. This book really gives you a lot of self-esteem about who you are, and that you really can be somebody.”
Thomas Fischer, Habitat for Humanity
If anyone of us can pick one or two of these traits and begin to work on them there is no doubt that we can begin to move forward with out lives. We often look for the magic pill to success but it can be disguised little things that become habits. People like to look at it from many angles and metaphors but when someone like Napolean Hill or say a Richard St. John do this kind of research and can bring it down to a handful of basic things then we had best close our mouths and start doing these same things. You can say all the stuff about not wanting to be successful like them or wanting that kind of responsibility etc. but you’d be missing the point, if it moves you from feeling bad to feeling really good about yourself then your successful. That’s the point.
Self Esteem is the essential building block of a successful life according to decades of psychological and educational theory. In many ways has become programed into the school system with the mindset that our children lacked so much of it the system has over compensated with a no failure strategy for students. This has led to an inflated self image or ego that refuses to accept a class room grading as they consider themselves a much higher level. So it isn’t just “A” students who have this attitude but “C AND D” students as well and this can carry into all area’s of their life causing a person to become locked into a line of thinking that whatever they do or say should be regarded as important.
So you have poorly performing students who don’t believe they are along with impaired drivers, school bullies and others who commit crimes and lash out at people and yet have a high self eteem and feel others should treat them accordingly. So we’ve gone from building self esteem to creating a monster. So where does this begin, at the home, at the school, at the church or in our community in general. There are some major obstacles when we have too much of a good thing and the word it Entitlement. We feel everyone around owes us something like respect which is earned by a long standing position or service but not given freely to the unknown. There is fine line of having a robust self-image and being able to absorb criticism while using this as a learning circumstance. Realizing we can’t all walk around with wonderful sense of self while our heads are bowed in humble acceptance because this world would be a very boring place. What also comes into all this is the amazing variety of personalities we humans are endeared with and show off every moment.
So we have a cache 22 with our level of self worth because for those that have more than enough can bring a lofty attitude which makes others around them contemptuous as well and for the meek and mild they never let people know their true worth due to the lack of contribution in conversation or decision making. So where is the medium for all this lack of potential and abundance of self image, perhaps it lies in the area of Respect.
